Intimate Partner Violence
Intimate partner violence (IPV), or domestic violence, is abuse occurring in a romantic relationship that can take many forms and requires careful safety planning.
What is Intimate Partner Violence (IPV)?
Intimate partner violence (IPV) is abuse that happens in a romantic relationship, including current or former spouses or dating partners. It can be a one-time event or ongoing, and includes:
- Physical violence: Hurting or trying to hurt a partner by hitting, kicking, or using physical force.
- Sexual violence: Forcing or attempting to force a partner to take part in sexual activity without consent.
- Emotional abuse: Threats, name-calling, put-downs, humiliation, and controlling behavior.
- Economic abuse: Controlling access to money.
- Stalking: Repeated, unwanted contact that causes fear, such as watching, following, or sending unwanted calls or texts.
Signs of IPV
If you suspect a loved one is experiencing IPV, watch for these signs:
- The individual: Has unexplained cuts or bruises, avoids friends and activities, makes excuses for their partner, or looks fearful around their partner.
- The partner: Yells at or makes fun of them, tries to control all decisions, checks up on them constantly, forces sexual acts, or threatens self-harm to prevent a breakup.
What to Do If You Are Experiencing IPV
Your safety is the most important concern. If you are in immediate danger, call 911. Other steps include:
- Get medical care if injured or sexually assaulted.
- Call a helpline: Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE (7233) or 800-787-3224 (TTY). You can also chat online or text START to 88788.
- Find local help: Contact organizations in your community.
- Make a safety plan: Think about a safe place to go and what you need to leave.
- Save evidence: Keep pictures of injuries or copies of threatening messages in a safe place.
- Talk to someone you trust or consider a restraining order.
How to Help Someone Else
If you are helping a loved one, let them know they are not to blame. You should:
- Call 911 if there is immediate danger.
- Watch for signs of abuse and learn about local resources.
- Set up a time to talk in a safe, private place.
- Be specific about the behaviors that concern you.
- Help them plan for safety if they are ready to leave.
- Be patient, do not judge, and remain available to listen.